A lady went to a seer to talk about the one she loved, whom she wasn’t with anymore. She said to the seer, “I miss him. I wonder if he misses me. I wonder if he’s coming back. I’m so depressed, I don’t know what to do with myself.”
The seer said “okay”, and looked away. Of course, that wasn’t a satisfactory response for the lady.
She said “I miss him” and “I wonder if he’s coming back” again, hoping to get some sympathy, and maybe some insight into what the future held for her.
Then he replied, “I’m sure you do, I’m sure you wonder”.
“Well, do you have any advice for me?”, she said, after two minutes had passed, two heavy minutes that felt like 30.
“I don’t have any”, he said. “You choose to miss him, so allow yourself to miss him. Be true to yourself.” The he adds, “but ask yourself, how long are you going to do this for?”
She broke into tears, and he took a step back.
“Who is in charge of you?” Who controls what happens up there?”, he asked, pointing to his head.
“I do”, she replied.
“Who is in charge of your mind, your body, your self? Of course, missing him and letting yourself be miserable is what you’re choosing to do. What do you expect me to do, become you? Do you think I have any power over you? Do you think of yourself as a robot that has to be controlled by someone else to survive/function? We both totally understand what I mean.”
She stopped crying and wiped her tears.
“If you want to choose to miss him, miss him. If you want to choose to be in denial, and wait for something that isn’t coming, wait. If you want to choose to move on and do something good with yourself, do it. It’s not my business or problem. You’re choosing to do something and asking me to help you stop. Ultimately, you get to choose whether or not you want to suffer, and if suffering is what you have chosen to do for this long, so be it. You’re a wonderful soul; don’t be so dense. Healing is a choice- choose it.”